The Guestlist

Aloha Dear Reader,

Your budget will play a big role in who you invite to your wedding. I know you’d like to have the whole town, all your college buddies and every relative, no matter how distantly related.

Unfortunately, this usually isn’t possible.

My suggestion is that you each make a list separately and then compare them. The names that appear on both lists are shoo-ins. The others may need some debate.

Be sensitive to the dynamics of the group. Some individuals simply may not fit in with  the rest of the guests. And you certainly don’t want to make anybody uncomfortable.

If you can afford it, it’s nice to allow single people the option of bringing a guest.

If your parents are paying for the wedding, or even a portion of it, be sure to save some spot for people that they may want to invite.

There may very well be some people who hear about your plans and try to invite themselves. This can put you in an uncomfortable position. The best route is to explain that either your budget or your venue have limited the number of people you can have. And then tell them that they would definitely have been the next name and that you’ll be thinking of them and miss them on The Day.

There may be some ruffled feathers left, but you’ve done all you can do and you’ve done it graciously.

Peace, sunsets and aloha from Maui,

Ellen

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